Here at Cupid.com, we know that most single men and single women are not interested in spending hours upon hours filling out questionnaires and surveys. Matching each other on the answers to a lot of irrelevant questions is not the best indicator of your compatibility with someone else. The main way to find out if you are really meant to be someone is by talking to them.
On the other hand though, many of you pointed out that a lot of people use Tinder for hookups, and because the service is so simple compared to other, more robust matchmaking sites. One the bright side though, no one can message you (and you can't message anyone) unless you both liked each other's photos, so there's that. Some of you pointed out that the fact that Tinder cuts the BS and the bloat from online dating is what makes it so powerful, and shared your success stories with it. Go in with an open mind and be ready for weird people, and you'll be fine. Read more in the nomination thread here.
Setting up your profile involves a rather in-depth chemistry assessment of more than 70 questions. This means you'll have to think a little bit about your own personality, how others perceive you and what you want in a mate. Questions include whether you consider yourself productive and whether you're seen as stubborn. You answer on a scale, which is nice because it means your answers can be more nuanced than yes or no. There are several other questionnaires available to continue to flesh out your profile, but they're not required. Messaging and viewing user profiles is all free on Plenty of Fish. While our reviewers don't think the website is very well designed, the free mobile app is also an option that's super easy to use. The one downside to any service with free messaging is that you could feel overwhelmed if you find yourself with a flooded inbox. On average, the three fake accounts we set up for testing got 40 matches in 24 hours, the second highest of any service we tested. Of those, 22 percent were "top prospects," which is the site's way of saying those users are highly compatible with you.
Why it's awesome: Founded in 2000 by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, eharmony is the site for serious daters. A spokesperson for the site says it's been used by 54 million people, and is apparently responsible for 4 percent of U.S. marriages. Users answer a lengthy questionnaire that helps eharmony determine what it calls a "a select group of compatible matches with whom you can build a quality relationship." Spira says she's always seen eharmony as a "matrimonial dating site.""That doesn’t mean you’re going to walk down the aisle, but it certainly means that you’re looking for a very serious relationship that may or may not lead to marriage. It may lead to living together or at least being in an exclusive, committed relationship."
Zoosk offers a variety of different features to help you find dates in the way that best suits your style. The search function allows daters to set advanced filters and screen for other singles that fit any number of different criteria from religion to height to education. Daters can also look for matches through SmartPick, which offers singles that are algorithmically picked for you based on your in-app activity, and Carousel, which is a feed of singles that say yes or no to based on a trimmed down profile view. All of these come together to offer a diverse online dating experience.
Once you've installed these apps and signed up for the services, get ready for a barrage of notifications and email. Some, like daily match suggestions, are helpful, while others, like alerts that tell you every new "like" you get, can just be annoying. The good thing is you can easily tweak these alerts by drilling down into the settings menus in each of the apps.
Bumble is a happy bubble of dating zen. Built to be safe and respectful of everyone, the app feels far more up to date than its competition, with modern language. For example, it asks you how you identify instead of just making you check a "male" or "female" box. It also puts all the power in the woman's hands—a man can't contact a woman unless she has shown interest in him first. Not looking for love? Bumble also offers a way to find new friends, and even a mini-LinkedIn-like section for professional connections.
Happn takes location-based dating to the next level. This hyper localized dating app serves up people that you’ve physically crossed paths with. Yep, that’s right. No more missed connections, or, at least, that’s the hope. Happn has a very quick setup through your Facebook account, then you’re free to start sending off those likes. Not too much to say, except that it tends to skew younger and there may not be very many people on it if you’re in a more rural area, but it’s great for cities.
Some people take online dating searches very seriously. They have a specific shopping list of criteria they are looking for and will settle for nothing less than a perfect connection. While others are more open or general in their search — they will know what they are looking for when it finds them. Regardless of where you fit in the quest for fun, friendship or romance, Connecting Singles has a match or search process designed for you.
Another strong option if you're just on the hunt for no-strings-attached action is XMatch. As you'll clearly see if you visit the site, XMatch is all about giving you a taste of the "XXX action." With more than 75 million members, the hookup-centric site will serve up a ton of possible sex partners in your area, whether it's someone who shares your specific kinky desires, or other people also looking for no-strings attached sexy hookups.
Register for free and fill out the in-depth personality profile — don’t worry, it’s comprehensive and at times revealing, but it’s a breeze and you’ll actually learn a thing or two about yourself. Let’s not forget that it’s the first step in finding love. So it’s important. We’ll then match you with other compatible matches for free. Once matched, review their profiles. Pick a membership that works best for you. Then start talking with your matches. You’ll see how organic the process becomes with Guided Communication and other features that let you talk to matches at a comfortable pace for you.
SilverSingles is tailored to "mature, well-rounded men and women" above the age of 50. It debuted in 2001 as PrimeSingles.net, changed its name to Single Seniors Meet in 2009 and has been SilverSingles since 2011. SilverSingles is tailored towards long-term committed relationships for their members' golden years. The site is very clear and easy to navigate, making it a approachable for older adults who might not get online as much.
The League is an "elite dating app" that requires you to apply -- and supply your job title, college and LinkedIn profile. Big cities tend to have long waiting lists, so you might find yourself twiddling your thumbs as your application is reviewed. (Of course, you can pay to expedite the process.) The exclusivity can be a draw for some and a turnoff for others, but I'll let you in on a secret: I've seen most of the profiles I come across on The League on other dating apps, too. So at the end of the day, you'll probably see the same faces on Tinder, if you aren't deemed elite enough for The League.
How it works: Like a good wingman (or wing woman), Zoosk starts to understand you more and more as time goes on to help introduce you to the person you can spend the night or rest of your life with. The site's unique algorithm recognizes your preferences through the actions you take. The more you interact with the site, the better it can match you with your ideal human.