Yes, officially Instagram is a social media app for sharing photos, but unofficially it’s hotbed of lust, thirst and clandestine messaging. When you think about it, your Insta is the perfect dating profile. Loads of pics of your face and, if you’re a flaunter, your body. You reveal where you go on holiday, what you eat, who you hang around with and... well, everything really. Plus the captions on your photos can give an idea of your intelligence (watch out for textspeak and bad opinions) and your sense of humour. And now Instagram stories lets people see you walk and talk before they’ve even met you. You’re practically besties before you even make contact! Unlock your Insta, get creative – and do a few underwear shots – and your inbox will be groaning with messages from people who want you hashtag-shag them.
But she says, that doesn’t mean it’s the only way to meet someone. “Ultimately, I don’t think we should have an all-or-nothing approach when it comes to meeting new people. When we’re single and looking for a partner, we have to cast a wide net. If you feel dating fatigue from going on too many blind dates, I suggest taking a break and re-engaging in activities you enjoy."
Today, app-first options — and mobile-friendly sites with their own custom apps — from AdultFriendFinder to Zoosk have changed the game thanks to massive databases of loyal, active date-seekers providing plenty of fish in the sea to choose from. That means if you're looking for like-minded people, you won't have to swim very hard or very far. Now, you just need to find the right dating site or app to sign up for.
The downsides: There aren't really any filters other than preferred gender and age, which is pretty broad — so half of the people who Happn suggests to you might hate all of the things you like, have opposite political views, or just be the opposite of your type in general. Of course, you can swipe to avoid matching, but it would obviously be nice to narrow options down a little more.
Firstly, if two people of opposite genders match then Bumble only allows the women to text first. And the woman has to text within the first 24 hours after you match. This feature basically allows matches to develop into something. Bumble is the only app that strictly prohibits any pornographic material and also outrightly asks its users to respect its code of conduct which is actually a big plus point. Like any other app, Bumble also requires your Facebook account to set up your profile.
Deutlich wird aber auch, dass je oberflächlicher die Dating-App, desto oberflächlicher die Intentionen der Singles. Das sollte man natürlich nicht pauschalisieren, aber stets bei der Benutzung der Apps im Hinterkopf behalten. Denn was gibt es Schlimmeres als eine Vielzahl multimedial gebrochener Herzen? Aber bis dahin gilt: schreiben, chatten, daten und sich verlieben – alles mit einer Flirt-App. Vielversprechender ist die Partnersuche über eine Partnervermittlung oder eine Singlebörse. Hier fallen jedoch oft monatliche Gebühren an, da Portale ihren Nutzern oft erst nach Abschluss einer Premium-Mitgliedschaft den vollen Funktionsumfang bieten.
Features for introverts: Instead of swiping, browsing, poking, and messaging your way into someone's inbox only to never hear back, this app will send you a potential match every day at noon. Men receive curated matches based on the algorithm and women will only be presented with potential matches (called Bagels) that have already expressed interest.
Zoosk is a leader in the dating app space, as they were one of the first ones on the scene. Their integration with Facebook and Google+ makes for quick and easy signup because you won’t have to input your information and pictures — they’ll do it for you. Then you’ll be able to search for matches, introduce yourself as well as have the app do the introductions, and chat all for free.
Dating apps generally try to give themselves a gimmick to differentiate themselves from the competition, but few have gone as far as Quiz Date Live. Essentially a cross between The Bachelorette and HQ Trivia, Quiz Date Live moonlights as a dating show within an app, as suitors compete to win a date with one particular lucky lady, the featured dater.